Live your best to life’s end.
There’s still lots of life to live–whatever health and medical decisions that may be ahead. For many, feeling ‘alive’ right to the end means feeling useful for as long as possible. For others, it’s peace of mind that brings a peaceful end. For most, it’s feeling wanted, valued, respected and listened-to that are all-important. The pleasures of everyday life can be just as meaningful: what makes you smile, what brings you happiness and joy and what gives you comfort.
It’s often that small stuff that can make a big difference: There are creative ways to accomplish what may seem out of reach – like the man on the rock who may not be able to be physically near an ocean, but may be able to turn to technology to inspire a solution. Paying attention to small pleasures shifts the focus from ‘what I don’t want at life’s end’ to ‘what will make a positive difference to me at life’s end.’ It’s an approach with its own reward: helping someone have the best end can help everyone involved.
‘Fill in the blank‘
I bring a whiteboard to international health conferences, summits and workshops and asking healthcare professionals what small things they’d want right up until the end. Filling in the blank put a smile on each and every face. Check out MyBestEndings on instagram for more.
It can be a long road to learning about and planning for the best end-of-life experience. There’s lots to consider and emotions to tackle. Pick your own starting points: personal or medical decisions or specific topics. You can come back for more and then document your end of life wishes
Heart and kidney failure, frailty, Alzheimer’s, Lung Disease, Diabetes
The Palliative and Hospice approach: comfort and quality of life is what it’s all about
Cardio Pulmonary Resuscitation: CPR, Do Not Resuscitate: DNR, Allow Natural Death: A.N.D
Time honored customs can help at life’s end, ways to keep memories alive.
Heroic Measures; Breathing Machines, Feeding Tubes, Medication
Knowing what End of Life looks like can ease the process; often grief starts long before the end.
Surrogate, Substitute, Agent, Proxy: who will make sure your end of life wishes are followed.
Create your own end of life, Advance Directives Living Will with an interactive form
Of the three siblings, Ricky – the sole daughter – was closest to her mother, Anna. “When my marriage ended, my kids and I lived with my mother. We all adored her.” In the last three years of her life Anna- who died at age 91 – was beset by Dementia. “It was more than memory loss – it was her wonderful personality that vanished.” In spite of the pain of her beloved mother disappearing, Ricky took care of her until the end.read more