Substitute, proxy, surrogate, agent. They all mean the same thing: the person or people you’ve assigned the authority to make decisions on your behalf, if you become too ill or too injured to speak for yourself.
This may be one of the most important parts of your end of life ‘directives’: it’s often a heavy and serious responsibility to assign. Many’s the substitute who’s suffered from Post Traumatic Stress.
Conflict can come from all sides: your surrogate decision-maker(s) may not be ready to let you go – perhaps feeling you’re giving up. Studies show that surrogates direct according to their own wishes, rather than the patient’s directives. Healthcare professionals, too, often feel like they’ve failed if the decision is made not to try another intervention or procedure.
A health crises can throw decisions into array:
- Many would like to die at home, in familiar surroundings. But health scares at home can be too much to handle for family or caregivers or even the patient.
Even the seemingly simple act of giving ‘consent’ and ‘informed consent’ isn’t so simple in practical terms. It can help to understand these complexities, to better ensure wishes can be honoured.
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