Culture, Traditions and Being Remembered
There are as many end of life rituals as their are cultures. Each intended to ease through the dying process and to help those left behind to move on, while celebrating a life lived, and honouring memories.
For some memories are triggered by a treasured momento: a piece of jewellery, a hand-knitted blanket. For many, it’s photographs, special occasion cards, scrapbooks. For some, it’s a project worked on together for a shared experience to remember: creating a puzzle together or – using available technology – iphone video conversation. Virtual experiences offer more options: a Facebook memorial page, a shared photo library.
To Tombstone or not to Tombstone
I don’t know where my parents are buried. I was at both their burials, in different graveyards. I don’t remember where. Nor do their graves have headstones. Many find this weird, even off-putting. I don’t miss having a grave or headstone to commemorate.I don’t...
Medical Aid in Dying: I signed up to be a witness
I was nervous about this new role I’d signed up for: volunteering to be one of two witnesses to make official a patient’s request for medical assistance in dying.This involves witnessing the paperwork necessary for a MAID (Medical Aid in Dying) request. The...
Live in memory, Live in love
This is Sam, my father-in-law. He's going into his 103 year, and is still smiling. Yet every night, his last words before falling asleep: God, please let me die He's not suffering in any major way: the swollen ankles and chronically congested chest don't bother him...
My big brother, John, had the best possible end
My bro died at home, on Palliative/Hospice Care Although we did not know it at the time, my brother's 'end' started November 2018, with a brain tumour diagnosis. Surgery before Christmas that year was deemed 'successful' and John was in such good physical shape that...
