Comments from BestEndings readers
I so appreciate knowing what my readers think!
I applaud your frame of mind now and urge you to embrace your quest.
As a. 58 yo woman whose mom died about 18 months ago, I wish she had had the courage to plan more. She’d always said there was a file with her notes for a service. But when I found it, the ideas and specifics were 20+years old and mostly not relevant. Blessings as you think, ponder, plan and prepare.
I think that living with an awareness of mortality – our own and others’ – helps us to live much better lives.
This isn’t morbid! (Though it may sound that way to some until you practice it.) I’s realistic, and it’s compassionate. It makes every day a blessing.
I’ve had loved ones pass in total denial, leaving a nightmare behind them, and I’ve had them pass with awareness and courage while we walked beside them & were able to honour their lives. One guess which is the better way.
Also very very important is a detailed Living Will, or Do Not Resuscitate (DNR)instructions. The standard “do not rescusitate” order to medical institutions still allows for an astonishing range of interventions unless you get a physician to help spell things out in their lingo. Perhaps you could explore this topic further for us, Kathy? Thanks for this wonderful resource you’re creating!
Wonderful collection of materials for making the bestending.
As a provider we must realize that we help to provide care for a lifetime, and that includes dignity at the end of life as well as joy at the beginning.
Arnold Goldberg MD
Thank you for your thought provoking ‘Tequila and the New Yorker’ talk yesterday.
The conversation you brought out showed how diverse & ephemeral thinking can be on this subject that inevitably touches us all…!
I love that you build death into living life… From the moment we are born, death is present… Good idea to learn…plan… make choices… Living to the fullest because we are conscious death is ever present… not just something that happens to others…