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BestEndings Flash Video Chat: Talking about dying

Impromptu End of Life conversation captured on video It started out as an experiment: there was a new video camera, an excuse to get together with a good friend who ‘does the lighting’ for movies and commercials. He makes everything look beautiful. And why not get in pizza and invite some friends, and get a proper lighting lesson and camera test. Pizza topping had to take into account various cultures: Hindu, Muslim, Mexican-Catholic, Irish-Catholic, Anglican. Chowing down, the ‘what’re you up to’s’ led to my continued interest in all things related to end of life. Sparked quite a convo! And so a purpose was found and a flash video chat created. The result was too good not to post. The question I posed: “Why is it so hard to talk about dying.” Starring: Mike Houlahan , Sudhir and Ruth Handa, Colleen Young, Georgina Camacho Ibarra and Majid Ariannejad It’s 12 minutes long, broken into 5 parts. Watch each separately, or ‘play all’ Part 1: End of life conversations are not an easy for Mike and his Dad, even tho they consider themselves ‘intelligent and caring men.’ Collen is not afraid of talking about dying and death, and knows her mother’s wishes for a ‘good death. Part 2: Ruth shares thoughts and insights on why many find it hard to talk about dying, end of life and death. Fellow BestEndings chat-ers identify with what she’s saying.   Part 3: Majid – developer of www.bestendings.com, shares the impact it’s had on him, as we talk and talk about and through aspects of dying and death, medical interventions, personal decisions. Mike give...

BestEndings Chat: end-of-life discussion video’d

Inaugural BestEndings Chat topic: Why is it so hard to talk about dying.   Insights, Revelations. Confessions and Spirited Debate amongst 6 friends from diverse backgrounds. Together, we represented Hindu, Athiest, Christian, North American Catholic, Mexican Catholic and Muslim. Left to right: Mike, Sudhir, Ruth, Kathy, Colleen, Gina, Majid Mike Houlahan, Healthcare Executive; Sudhir and Ruth Handa, Businessman, Colleen Young, plain language writer and founder of Canada’s national tweet chat for healthcare and social media: #hcsmca, Gina Camacho Ibarra and Majid web developers, BestEndings. The video will be uploaded soon, but in advance – a taste of what’s to come (funny bits saved for the video) Mike: I’m involved in healthcare, I’m engaged with BestEndings and still – when my father had a health scare, I was too scared to talk to him. Sudhir: I guess because of my upbringing, I am not afraid of dying – I just want to be fully prepared. Ruth: I don’t think you can say any one religion offers more comfort than another. Gina: In Mexico, we celebrate death: we visit our relatives and have Day of the Dead. Majid: I love talking to you every day: it’s a great opportunity to talk about living – that’s really what you’re talking about. Colleen: So often, when someone is ‘going’ you want to do something. My mother’s given me something to do in the event she can’t speak: she’s asked me to read to her. I feel very comforted by...